Saturday, February 16, 2008

Valentine's Day

This is supposed to be Valentine's Day post but cannot post on time.

Anyway, rather frustated during Valentine's Day due to someone's remark.
Well it all started with some colleagues and I planning for an outing together during Valentine's Day since we are all singles.
Scatterbrain me forgot dad going back on V-Day so I double book myself on that day. So I tua my colleagues in the end since my dad more important.
During lunch time on V-Day, we were talking about what some dudes are doing for their gfs.

Then suddenly this colleague just said:

Colleague: "Eh imagine the three of you really went for the movie... I'm sure you all will have coffee after movie right. Then you will see couples walking around during V-Day with flowers. Wouldnt you be bitching about them??"
NONO: "Huh?"
Colleague: "Then after you all bitch bitch, then you will look at yourselves and wail why no boyfriends"

Maybe I'm sore that he is making fun of us being single, but the joke very funny meh? Is it really funny? or Is it that I'm really sore that I'm single? Are we singles your lunch time joke on V-Day? That is really the last straw that breaks the camel's back, so I retorted:

NONO: "Huh? What makes you think we feel sorry for ourselves that we are single? Really, what makes you think we feel sorry about ourselves that we are single?"

*silence at lunch table*

I have enough.

Why do some people think that singles are pathetic people? There are singles who are happy being singles you know. Why cant the society accept that?
I dont understand why THAT stigma that continues to haunt single WOMEN ONLY even after so many years of intelligence development and cultural evolution in the society.
Should single women really feel sorry for themselves? I dont understand.

I know some of my friends are concerned for their single friends, but please dont look at us with sympathetic eyes. We are not pathetic because we have no boyfriends. Not all of us place relationship as No.1. Thats all. We are single not because no men want us, not because we are dumb asses that attracts no men. We just have different priorities.

I'm not saying that those people with partners are useless. NO.
It's a blessing to be able to find someone to share your joy and sadness with, really. I can frankly tell you that it is a blessing.
The message that I want to drive across is dont look at single ladies with sympathy, we really dont need that, nor do we appreciate that.
If you are really a friend, support and understand why we remain single, and not joining the rest of the 'ignorants' in pitying us for being unattached.